Sunday, September 21, 2008

Things I'm annoyed at

Marine iguanas, Fernandina Island, Galapagos Archipelago
Copyright (c) 2007 Wendee Holtcamp

OK I'm going to vent. These are the things I'm annoyed at right now!

1. People who say they'll be there for you, and then aren't.
2. People who constantly cancel on you or say they'll call and then don't.
3. Stonewalling
4. Lack of communication. Like ANY communication. See #3 above.
5. People who think they are so great, and they are just human like the rest of us.
6. People who you know care, and yet are unable to make the effort to SHOW they care.
7. People that do not say thank you.
8. People who do not apologize when they mess up, or when you call them on their stuff.
9. People who are so completely oblivious to how they affect other people, even when you TELL them! Or they just don't care.
10. People who just don't care. See #1.

And I'm also annoyed at the fact that it's taking so long to get my electricity back on and now the temperature is 900 degrees Fahrenheit with 99% humidity!

Generally I'm pretty laid back but sometimes I struggle with the balance between standing up for what I need, and then feeling like crap for saying what I need. Who am I sorry to? Obviously if the people disappear, they are not true friends anyway. So what if I am not perfect in my delivery sometimes. We are all human. We all say that, but does anyone actually GET it?!!! Does anyone ever actually forgive, reach out, talk, listen, care? Is the world just all about our own selfish narrow view, and we are so unable to reach out and care for other people? Jesus H. Christ. I'm fed up!

I've written this before, and I fully believe it. "You have exactly what you put up with." Well I put my foot down about what I'm not willing to live with, which (can you guess) has to do with consistent unreliability and making promises and statements that are completely out of touch with what that person is truly able to give. Let your word be true, and follow through with what you say you'll do, because in the end, it's really all you have and are.

As a kid I had no boundaries, and I allowed people to walk all over and through me. But when people who grew up like that find our own voice and our own boundary sometimes when someone steps on our toes, we are not able to say "Excuse me, please get off my toes" but instead tend to say, "GET THE HELL OFF MY TOE!" But can anyone just be patient with my humanity? Seriously.

I just read this on a friend's blog and loved it! It's on the Fully Caffeinated Blog, the post Every Once in a While. This is the last paragraph which I LOVE!

Every once in awhile you need to think of the line from "Fiddler on the Roof," "A bird and a fish can fall in love, but where will they make their home?" And you need to realize you are a bird, and you married a fish, and at times you leave each other gasping for air, and although it's never been easy, it's sacred. And strong. And worth it.

1 comment:

Carrie Wilson Link said...

Thank you for linking the Link! : )

BTW? Totally agree with your list - people! Is it THAT hard to be kind and considerate? Really?